So then what? Do you just up and dump all your friends? Well, thankfully for me, I just dove into further growing my relationship with Christ, feed my developing embryo if you will, and then God did the rest. Miraculously He pulled my husband into a deeper walk with Him, He pulled a friend or two into deep walks as well aside of me, a relationship just stopped (on it’s own, no fights, no exchange of words, just neither of us ever contacted the other after a lunch date one day), one relocated for work…. then there were the new people God put into my life that were also walking the same path. That doesn’t mean there aren’t unyoked, if you will, people in my life, because there are, and I am friends with some of them, but that doesn’t change who I am.
There are however relationships that we can’t sever like family and co-workers, but we are called to make our paths clear so that others can follow. We are also called to guard our hearts, which Paul lays out in Philippians 4:6-7. It’s all about communication and praying for the relationship before talking about it with the other person, this brings the peace of God into our hearts and minds, and the relationship. Don’t we all just want a poached relationship… nice, soft, and squishy, warm and gooey? I have learned that if my intentions are true and just and were pleasing to Him, I can’t control how others react…I need to be reminded of that, often. And with these others I usually end up with scrambled with a shell or two in it – but that’s where it grows, relationships are messy and when you dig through the scrambled you can end up with something amazing….but it has to be what everyone wants, and in my experience you only find people willing to do that, dig through the goo to get the shell with you, to honor and respect you; who are equally yoked with you. That doesn’t mean we don’t love and pray for these people, it just means it’s usually just a little harder. Like when you crack an egg at lunch thinking it’s hard boiled and it wasn’t.
So as you walk in love with others, just remember that even though sometimes you want hard boiled, you could end up with sunny-side up instead. It’s part of the plan, part of how we work on ourselves, our relationships and how we can grow in and bring others to Him.